I dont often place others work on my website but this is so in keeping with my own experience and practice. Thank you Blake Bauer” It’s often not until we allow other people to treat us horribly and therefore feel worthless or valueless that we realize our approach to ourselves and to life truly needs to change. Unfortunately, things have to get so bad, so painful, or so out of control for most us before we realize how important it is to honor and value ourselves consistently in every moment, situation, and relationship.
Underneath these painful situations and relationships, however, is the empowering and healing truth that we’re not actually victims in any way, because we’re the ones who have compromised ourselves for the conditional love, acceptance, approval, attention, and support of other people and thus can change this self-destructive pattern.
If we look at ourselves honestly, most of us will see that we often do not honor and value what we truly think, feel, want, and need, because we’re afraid to, we don’t know how to, or we don’t feel that we deserve to. In other words, we all compromise ourselves to varying degrees on a daily basis just to “keep the peace” and to avoid confrontation. Some of us compromise ourselves in every situation and relationship because we unconsciously believe that we must always please others or make others happy in order to be loved, accepted, approved of, attended to, or supported. Some of us don’t compromise ourselves nearly as much but still find it challenging at times to love, honor, and value ourselves ……. Read more https://www.facebook.com/BlakeBauer1/posts/663469017000615
